Have Your Relationships Suffered During Lock Down?

If yes, you are not alone. A recent survey has shown that all kinds of relationships are a little the worse for wear because of lockdown.

 

Respondents to a recent social study have shown that:

• 1 in 5 feel friendships outside the household have suffered.

• 1 in 5 feel friendships outside the household have suffered.

• Relationships with housemates have also suffered with 20 per cent saying there has been deterioration in communications since lockdown.

• Couples are also worse off with 18 per cent reporting difficulties with a partner.

• A quarter of those surveyed have reported a downturn in relationships with colleagues over the last 5 months despite people adjusting to remote working and online conferencing.

How to even begin to self-help around this subject? Well, the one thing these relationships have in common is YOU! Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to apportion blame here or make any judgements about the cause of any relationship difficulty, but one of the first things you can do to improve relationships of any kind is – LISTEN MORE.

LISTENING to the thoughts and ideas of those around you can help you expand your knowledge. It could open your eyes to new thoughts you might never have had before.

Here’s How

• Make yourself available and approachable so that others feel welcome to talk to you.  

• Make yourself available and approachable so that others feel welcome to talk to you.  

• Be aware of your body language.  Sitting with arms crossed and a scowl on your face is more challenging than welcoming.

• Try to encourage with a smile or a nod.  

• Ask questions to clarify not judge.

• Hold fire and try really listening to what is said rather than interrupting just to make a point of your own.

• Try not to plan what you are going to say until the other person finishes their point; if you do you might miss something really important the other person is trying to get across.

• When you listen more and speak less it can help others open up and share valuable information with you.

• Listening is more than just paying attention to what another person is saying; it is giving thoughtful consideration to another’s point of view.

• Use eye contact to show you are giving them your time and attention.

• Put your phone away.

Ask Yourself These Self-Reflection Questions:

1. In what way can I improve my listening skills?

2. How often do I give people my undivided attention?

3. Do I routinely make eye contact during conversations?